Halloween Indecision 2010

Fine, fine. Nico won the Halloween costume battle. He gets to wear the Grim Reaper costume after all.

Vic and I discussed it at length and since my husband can relate to our first-born son much better than I can, I reluctantly consented to let Nico wear the grisly costume.

BUT he will not be allowed to use the fake blood pump. AND I didn't get him the scepter, lest you think I've completely ignored my instincts as a strict and frugal Taiwanese mom.

Also, here's a slightly edited chat transcript between me and my friend Jon about Nico's Halloween costume this year:

Jon: i want to offer up that we had to either make our costumes when we were kids or buy them with our own money. so if nico wants to make something scary, at least he has to be creative.

me: that's how it was for me too

especially with cheap chinese (taiwanese) immigrant parents

i told nico that even

Jon: right

no dice though, eh?

me: my mom would have been all, "here's some construction paper. good luck"

Jon: right

and if it came down to it

it was ghost or stay home

if you didn't want to put in the work

me: right, here's a pillowcase

and some scissors

Jon: do they even make costumes that gruesome in his size?

me: yes, isn't that ridiculous?

i hate the freaking blood pump

why is that necessary?

Jon: seems over the top to me

me: yeah, he said halloween is about being scary

Jon: well, it could be worse. you could have a daughter that thinks halloween is about being slutty

As for Nolan, he has to will wear the dog costume I made his brother wear for three years in a row.

Halloween costume conundrum

Nico and I are at odds about his Halloween costume. My 8-going-on-18-year-old son wants to wear a Grim Reaper costume we saw at Target and I completely hate this idea. The costume features an exposed skeletal ribcage you can pump fake blood into.

A few weeks ago, he said he wanted to be Boba Fett, which I was totally OK with. In fact, I encouraged this idea because his little brother could then re-wear the Ewok costume from last year and I could be Chewbacca again and we could get a family Star Wars theme going (again).

Then, kids at school convinced Nico that dressing up as a character is for little kids and that Halloween is really about dressing up as something scary. I told him I think Halloween is about dressing up as anything you don't normally get to be, but he gave me such a look of disdain when I said that.

I pointed out other skeleton costumes he could consider, but Nico is fixated on having a thoracic skeleton and blood pump.

Last year, I had the boys' Halloween costumes settled in September, but this year we are stuck. Am I being unreasonable in thinking it's inappropriate for a third-grader to wear such a gory costume?